You can’t keep losing yourself in this world, you need to stick to what you know and what you believe.
How can you do those things if you’re always taking yourself so seriously?
There are many things that are going to bother you whether they are self-inflicted or not. Yes, you’re going to make mistakes, but what good is it going to do if you think about those mistakes when they’re out of your control?
The reason why you take so many things seriously is that you have an image in your head of what it’s like to be perfect. You wish you can do this and that when in reality you weren't meant to do those things. You were actually meant to make mistakes and to accept yourself for who you are.
When accepting yourself, you need to understand that your path to self-discovery doesn't end there. When you accept yourself you’re understanding the good and bad things about yourself.
Unfortunately, you take some of those things too seriously. This is completely understandable, but when you’re starting to lose yourself right when you’re discovering yourself at the same time, life can become confusing. Everything that you thought you knew about yourself is in question.
We admire people who are carefree because we want to be like them. We want to eliminate stress from our lives. Which again is another wrong image you’re putting into your head. Those people have their down moments too, they just know that it’s not the end of their lives.
There will be many good moments and bad moments that will happen in the future, taking yourself too seriously will only cause those bad moments to crush you. Accept the fact that your life isn't perfect and you'll immediately stop taking yourself seriously.
Remind yourself that mistakes are inevitable
Have you ever not learned your lesson from a previous mistake?
Once you made that mistake the first time, you thought that was the last moment it would ever happen to you again. Not because you sat down and analyzed what actually happened but because you thought it wasn’t going to happen again.
Mistakes are inevitable, you’re going to make them whether you like it or not. Yes. some of those mistakes are preventable but there are new mistakes waiting for you in the future.
How do you come to this realization?
How do you become “ok” with making mistakes constantly?
Simple, you let them happen. So many times in our life, we try to find ways to navigate through a predicted storm, in all honesty, the storms aren't even that bad. You start to catch yourself taking things too seriously when you realize that you’re only thinking about the future and not the present.
You’ve made plenty of mistakes in the past right?
During those times when they did happen, did you see them coming at all?
Was there something you could've done to prevent it from happening?
Sometimes there will be a yes for this answer and sometimes there will be a no. If there was something you could’ve done then good, you’re learning from that situation. If there wasn't anything you could’ve done then you know that you weren't totally at fault.
Life will lead you into some unfortunate events and before you can do anything about them it’s too late. This happens to everyone, and there will never be an exception just for you. You’re going to have to be ok with making mistakes in the future, just remember that you have the option to learn from them or not. People who don't take things too seriously understand this, that’s why they’re able to move on so fast.
Laugh at yourself repeatedly
This may cause you to feel a bit awkward at first but you’ll get used to it over time. Laughing is literally the best medicine you can find. “Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.” This is just one of the many benefits that laughter has on the body.
You’ve probably caught somebody in the act of laughing at themselves and it looks pretty awkward. It may be awkward to you, but to that person, they’re being not only wise with themselves but they’re treating themself at the same time.
Mistakes shouldn’t always have such a negative feeling associated with them, as a matter of fact, mistakes would be more acceptable if people understood that they can be good from time to time.
So, every time you get too hard on yourself for doing something wrong, pause, and have a giggle or two. This doesn’t have to be an excessive amount of laughter to the point your falling on the floor. It should be a simple and short laugh, acknowledging that you’ve made a mistake.
You can also say things like “silly me’ or “better luck next time,” in a sarcastic tone. Be your own comedian and you won't take things so seriously all the time. Live in the moment and laugh, you probably don’t get enough laughter in your day as it is so you might as well make the most out of those stressful situations.
Laughing has the power to make you forget about what just happened at the moment. Later on, when you’re thinking about the mistake you made earlier, you won’t only think of it as bad but you'll remember the laughter associated with it, which will bring a smile to your face.
Make laughing at yourself into a tool to use in moments of stress and worry, that way you can slowly start to become a more carefree person.
Journal about what happened
There are some instances that have happened in your past when thought about today, that doesn't seem as bad from what you originally thought. Journaling displays this to you right in front of your eyes. As you’re writing down what has happened to you that day or that year, you’ll see that those situations weren’t as bad as you initially thought.
A simple sentence like “I got rejected today by my crush” may seem bad when read in your head but when reading it aloud, doesn't make you worry as much. You’ll eventually look back at a sentence like this in your journal years from when you wrote it and not thinking much of it.
Journaling lets you know that mistakes are normal and they won't stop you from having a good life. People who don't take themselves too seriously are usually great writers as well, you can usually find these authors writing funny bibliographies as well.
If you know you’re not perfect, why stress about it?
Do you know anybody on Earth that is?
Writing in a journal is another way to express yourself too, if you don't want to take things too seriously then you need to become more comfortable with being able to express yourself at all times. If you’re not comfortable talking about your mistakes with others then go to your journal for clarity. Becoming one with your thoughts does not all happen in the mind, it will require some writing as well.
Always have the method of journaling in the back of your head, especially when things aren't going your way. Staying optimistic in those moments because you have journaling to go back to when you’re alone is a healthy mindset to have and will let you become more easy-going.
You can become more carefree if you’re willing to accept the mistakes you’ve made and the ones you’re going to make. The moment you start taking things too seriously is the same moment you will lose interest in being yourself. I’ll leave you with a quote from Chinese philosopher Confucius that says
“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”