Every Now and Then You’ll Go Back into Your Shell

Socializing gets easier but then gets harder over time as well

Brandon Bell


Photo by Cedric Fox on Unsplash

You’ve worked your way up to being a pretty sociable person, you may have been an introvert in the past but now you're getting better, it's a great feeling. All of a sudden life happens and you end up focusing on only a few people in your life and work too.

Work can really distract us from becoming a better person outside of work, it sucks when you have a day off from work and all you can do is think about it. You can go out to eat with your friends and even have a whole day out to just enjoy yourself but there’s something in you that you feel guilty about.

You know there’s someone at your job wondering where you’re at or you know someone who's there working harder than you and taking advantage of you being out of work.

We shouldn't be thinking about this when we’re off from our jobs but for people who are looking to be the best they can be in their career, it just happens.

Socializing also gets harder once you get locked into your career. For most of the day, you’re focused on your work and you don't really get a chance to speak to friends or in some cases your family.

You slowly start to creep back into your shell and you realize that you’re no longer the social butterfly you grew to be. It took you a lot of time to get to that point in your life and now it feels like you don't know how to get it back.

I’ve always been pretty shy, especially with a new group of people, but if I see those people often, I get comfortable around them and I open up to them. The only thing is, sometimes I feel like I’m looked at as weird or anti-social, even though they haven't said that directly to me, I still feel that way.

It’s definitely a personal problem but I’ve seen so many people go through the same thing and it sucks to see. Why are we so afraid of each other? We’re all just humans trying to figure out life but we get afraid that someone else doesn’t like us when in reality we should be more worried about if we like ourselves.



Brandon Bell

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”