So, you’ve decided to take on self-improvement but the results that you were hoping for are not coming to fruition. This can be the case whether you’ve been working on yourself for a couple of days or for a couple of years.
Becoming the best version of yourself is a lifetime process whether you want to believe it or not. Of course, you can level up each year of your life but the ultimate goal that you have can seem far away.
There is a risk involved when getting into self-help, you’re not guaranteed anything, you have to try it yourself in order for you to see the benefits that it comes with.
What about the cons?
Well, depending on how you look at your journey there can be a lot or a few. Yes, you’re going to get tired and you’re going to want to give up but this is simply part of the process.
Overnight success is something that you shouldn’t believe in when getting into self-improvement, even if you do get the overnight spotlight that you’ve always wanted by doing only a little bit of work, do you think you can maintain it?
Look, everyone is built differently and everyone has a reason for being here but you need to understand that everyone is on a constant journey in life. It may feel like you’re in a race with others but people are going at different paces.
The race you think you’re in may not be compared to a race a five-year-old child is in. Dedicate each day to improving yourself and the journey will become a lot easier.
Your future is undetermined, so why focus every second of the day on it. Focus on the present and focus on what you can do now to live the life you want to live and become the person you want to be.
There are no shortcuts but if you are looking for an easy way out then you can forget about the self-improvement thing because you need mental toughness to get through it and usually those hard times are where most people become stronger and more competitive.
The First Hour of Your Day
The first hour of your day should be spent on getting your mind right. Yes, before anything else you need to make sure your mind is operating and ready to take on the many challenges that the day has to offer.
This includes making your bed, meditating, reading, journaling, etc. You’ve probably heard of many morning routines that work for people so why not create your own or implement one of the ones you’ve read about into your life?
Having a morning routine is important because it lets your mind and body know that “okay, the day is about to begin and I need to get prepared.” When you go into your day with an unclear head and confusion, the day feels longer and a lot more frustrating.
You get cranky, you start to complain a lot, and you say the infamous line that so many of us Americans say when we’re at work that says “ I wish today was over already!” If you start your day off on the right note then you can go through your journey with a lot more clarity.
Wake up early and make yourself a good breakfast. Groom yourself and make sure you smell good so that you can be more confident in your appearance and more confident in yourself.
If you’ve ever felt this way at the start of your morning then you know how good you feel throughout the day. If you’re feeling a little stressed in the morning, write down what’s bothering you and analyze some steps you can take today to make those problems go away.
Structure in the morning can go a long way and while many of your friends are sleeping in and complaining about getting out of bed, you’ll be up early with a smile on your face and have a sense of motivation for some odd reason.
This reasoning is that you’re prepared, you’re ready, you will feel energetic and you will be able to use this energy to focus on your goals and accomplish what you want to accomplish in no time.
Tackling Your Responsibilities
This is never fun to do, but as humans, we need to take care of our responsibilities daily in order for us to survive. It’s what we signed up for when being born into this earth and its part of leveling up as well.
Start looking at your responsibilities in a different way, it’s not that you have to do them but you get to do them. Even if you feel like you’ve taken on a lot of responsibility in your life, you’re not alone.
There are people in similar situations or worse who are still able to maintain their lifestyle despite these responsibilities. Don't give up, look at your fellow humans who are doing the same and work hard with them.
Put yourself into a position where you don’t have to take care of all of these responsibilities in the future. Easier said than done but you know the work that it takes.
It’s not something that happens overnight but with time and effort. Try to take care of your responsibilities earlier on in the day. After you’ve had that first hour to yourself, get started on running any errands you have to make or paying any bills that you need to take care of.
Often, we don’t want to take care of these things early in the day because they give us a lot of stress, so we just save it for later. When you tackle these things early, you get that stress out of the way and you give yourself more time to improve yourself later on in the day.
We’re also more alert in the morning as well, you will feel this alertness especially when you made time for exercise and a good breakfast. Responsibilities are part of your daily life right now, accept that and take them head-on.
Believe it or not, there are people who wish they were in your position so that they could have something productive to do in their lives. You need to take care of your responsibilities with a sense of urgency, enjoy the process, make it feel like you’re actually putting in the work to live a better life in the future because you are!
Have Goals Set For Each Day
It’s okay to have big goals but within those big goals, you have to have smaller goals. Each day you should be working on achieving those big goals of yours, knowing that it will take a lot of time to truly achieve them.
This is what’s going to motivate you to wake up early and get some exercise in your day. If you’ve been having a hard time with finding motivation then you need to make your goals more clear and come up with a plan that you can follow daily.
Your personal goals are usually different from other’s goals so only you know what that goal is supposed to look like. Don’t compare your goals to anyone else's, make your’s unique, and take time to imagine that goal. That’s right, give yourself 10–15 minutes a day to just dream. Dream with intention and place yourself in the life you want to live and the body you want to be living in as well.
The more comfortable you become in that place the easier it will be to define the goals you need to obtain in order to get that life. Don’t make the process any harder than it needs to be, just work at it every day and have patience.
Live in the present moment and be thankful for the life you’re living in. If you want to level up your lifestyle, start right now and focus on what you can do right now. I’ll leave you with a quote from Alice Morse Earle that says
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.”