So, you don’t have the most functional car, you’re not in the best of shape, and everything seems to not go your way. Your situation is real and it may seem like that to you but think about someone who doesn’t even have a way of transportation or someone who doesn’t have access to get in shape.
You’re actually lucky to be in the position you’re in today, whether you’re at the bottom or the top. Your perspective is your life, what you think, is what you are.
Being positive is a rare skill to have in the world today, not many people are able to do it on a consistent level. It’s hard, the world is full of negativity and people are giving you a negative perspective on their reality and even yours.
Who’s to say that life always has to be depressing? Life is filled with ups and downs but there’s a balance between the two, most of the time we tend to dwell on the downs more than the ups.
The more control you have over your thoughts, the more positive of a person you'll be. This is if you choose to be positive, you have the right to think however you would like to but when your life gets stressful and dark, it’s best you reference back to your thoughts.
Why aren’t you happy?
Is it because of someone else or is it because of you? As humans, we tend to hold ourselves back by saying negative things to ourselves. Our thoughts are never positive, they’re just there.
If you’re not making an effort to produce more positive thoughts then how do you expect to be happy? When you tell yourself you’re happy and anything is possible, you are setting yourself up for success. Believe in yourself and trust in God to make your life more positive.
If you give out positive energy through your thoughts and your actions then God will see that and He will return that energy right back to you. It’s not easy but it’s possible for anyone to do, you just have to put some effort into the process.
It All Starts From Your Thoughts
Being happier begins with your thought process from a day to day basis. It’s important that you accept the fact that negative thoughts will occur and that life will be frustrating at times.
Once you know of the likelihood of those things, you’ll be able to catch yourself when those bad thoughts do occur. Let’s work on your thought process from the beginning of the day, to the middle of your day, and all way to the end of your day.
When you first wake up in the morning what is usually the first thought that comes to your head? If this thought is usually something like “here we go again” or “I want to go back to sleep” then you may want to consider switching those thoughts to ones more positive like “Thank you Lord for another day” or “I get another opportunity at life today.”
These thoughts only take a few seconds to think about but it really changes your whole perspective for the day. You instantly feel motivated to start your day and you look at the things around you in a more positive light.
In the middle of your day, it’s normal to feel a little fatigued, especially if you didn’t get good sleep or you had a big lunch. Being this tired can cause you to avoid the responsibilities you need to take care of.
Instead of fighting this fatigue, take a short nap to recalibrate your brain and body. If you don’t have time to take this nap during the day due to work or time restrictions then you need to tell yourself thoughts that will actually give you energy.
These thoughts can include “I do have energy” or “I am alert!” You may not see much of a difference at first but you’re letting your mind and body know that you do have what it takes to push through and when you put those thoughts out there God will give you the energy to push through and do what you have to do.
Lastly, monitor the thoughts you’re having before you go to bed. These usually get overlooked because you’re ready to go to sleep, before you get your well-needed REM, intentionally share your thoughts with God about how you’re feeling and how you want to feel when you wake up.
You Have to Really Believe It
When you think of good thoughts you’re only winning half of the battle, with these intentions you need to believe that they’re true. If you say that you’re happy, you need to actually believe you’re happy.
An easy way to do this is to imagine yourself in the happiest state of your life. This can be from when you were a child or when you had a good night with your friends.
Also, another part of believing is to actually act out your beliefs. When you’re saying that you’re happy, you should act like it so smile, if you see someone in your vicinity say “hello.” Being able to believe in what you are can have a really big impact on your reality.
With belief comes practice, for Lebron James to think that he’s the best basketball player in the world, he has to know that he’s put countless hours into his craft.
So, when striving to be a happier person, keep in mind that there is a level of work that you’re going to have to put in, in order to really believe that you’re happy. This work can include practicing the positive affirmations you say to yourself by setting a time each day where you’re reminding yourself of these thoughts.
This can be done through meditation or by using different resources to help you produce positive thoughts like music, podcast, or books. A great book to read on this subject is The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.
Saying a prayer during the middle of your day can also be used as a practice to produce positive thoughts. How much do you want to be positive? How bad do you want to feel happier about life and the world around you? When you truly believe that you can become something, you will be willing to put in the work to do so.
Wait for Your Turn
The positive energy you’re expecting to come back will come at the right time. This is usually the hardest part of becoming a more positive person, there are times where you feel like you’re putting out positive energy for no reason.
People will still be rude and external obstacles will come in the way. You just have to wait your turn, truthfully, someone else is getting the return back right now and it’s not your turn yet.
Having this patience will make the anticipation for the return even more exciting and you will learn what it is like to have true patience. Also, when that good energy does come back around, it’s likely that you won’t even notice when it comes to you at first.
You'll wake up and just feel good, even though you have a lot of things to stress about, your mind feels clear. Positive energy can come back in many ways, it all depends on what you’re believing can happen and what you’re working towards.
For many writers here on Medium, it takes months or years for their work to get noticed. What’s special about these writers is they stayed patient, they believed that they could have success on Medium, and in return, God gave it to them. Just wait a little longer, I know it doesn’t seem fair right now but you have to trust the process.
Happiness is subjective, you choose to be happy, no one else can choose it for you. What goes around comes around, just wait and see. I’ll leave you with a quote from Tony Dungy that says
“Be positive. Your mind is more powerful than you think. What is down in the well comes up in the bucket. Fill yourself with positive things.”