How to Have a Perfect Self-Care Day
A few things to think about when you have the time to take care of yourself
The journey to having a perfect self-care ritual can become aggravating at times. You have so much time on your hands and you don't know what to do with it. You see things online or you hear recommendations of things that you should start doing in order to look your best and feel your best.
Unfortunately, when the time presents itself, you end up using that time to do things that are not genuinely good for your well being. This becomes a cycle that you get tired of immediately. Instead of leading yourself into this frustration every time, you need to work on having a proper self-care routine.
Time to yourself can be rare, especially if you’re constantly working and doing things for others. Time to yourself should be valued and put to use for your overall health. You can do things daily to help you focus more on yourself, but these tend to be small increments of your day. It’s usually not enough time to properly take care of yourself.
When is the last time you pampered yourself?
With the right strategies, you can make time for a nice self-care day. You don't want your self-care days to become something that gets stuck in the back of your head. It’s something you know you should be doing often but you keep putting it off due to laziness.
You may not know where to start when you do have time for yourself. I don't blame you, there are so many things that you can do to feel better about yourself. Having this curiosity of wanting to clean yourself up is good to have and will help you be more excited for the next day you have to focus on self-care.
You will have to put your thinking cap on and think about what would actually work for you. There is a proper way to pamper yourself, everyone is different so you’ll have to be more observant of what your body needs. Let’s look at how you can set up and execute a proper self-care day.
Planning what you’ll do ahead of time
All of the time you spend thinking about how bad you want to have a self-care day can add up to a lot of time daydreaming. It’s good that your thinking in this way, you want to shift your thinking into what you would actually do on your personal day.
The best time to start planning for a day like this is actually the day before. On the day before, you can pay attention to what you think you actually need to do for your body. What’s also good about thinking the day before is that most of the stuff you think about will stay in your head for the day ahead. It won’t be too easy to forget.
If you want to take this self-care day seriously then you can even take it a step further and write down things you want to do. You can open the Notes app on your phone and jot down anything that comes to mind. Once you have a list created, you can start taking out things that may not seem too important or things that don't need to get done right away.
I like to do my self-care days on Sunday, so on Saturday night, I will write down some things that I want to work on for the next day. Things like clipping my nails, soaking my feet, and even doing some shaving. Whatever you feel needs to get done should be carefully thought about and written down.
Maybe it’s something you’ve been noticing all week, something like realizing that you’re breaking out on your face will help you to plan ahead of time.
Start getting your materials ready for the day before as well. If you want to clean your nails, invest in a small kit that comes with multiple nail clippers and some oil. If you have a portable feet massager at home, make sure it's clean and still working. You don’t want to be stuck with little to no items when you’re in the middle of taking care of yourself.
Don’t stress yourself out when making a schedule for your self-care day. You should really take time to see what would make that time ideal. Ask yourself how this can be the best self-care day you’ve ever had.
Focus on what parts of your body need the most attention
Now, I did touch upon this previously but knowing what on your body needs attention the most will help you to use that self-care time more effectively. These are things that you’ll notice throughout the week when you’re out and about.
One of the first things that I notice that needs attention is usually my nails. They grow fast and at times I feel like I have no way of keeping up with them. This is where my self-care days come in so that I don't have to worry about it too much during the week.
If you start seeing something on your body that needs some attention, don't start stressing about it immediately, just keep it in mind for your next self-care day. The more things you have to do on that day the less time you’ll have to waste.
Many people tend to gravitate towards their feet because it doesn't get looked at enough during the week. Your feet should be taking care of constantly, they’re what allow you to get from point A to point B. You may want to spend an extended amount of time washing and soaking your feet on your self-care day. When drying them off you can give your feet a massage and moisturize them with oil and lotion.
We are so busy during our day to day that we tend to just throw on socks right after we get out of the shower because we feel like we don't have enough time to really take of our feet.
If you’re somebody that’s exercising constantly then you will also want to apply the same strategy to muscles that are aching.
After you take care of some of the internal things that have been bothering your body all week long, you can start focusing on cleaning yourself up. Taking time to shave and polish up your skin is important.
When shaving, take your time and apply a moisturizer that will prevent you from getting razor bumps. Making sure that you look clean and feel clean will help you to realize how important it is to make time for future self-care days.
Make some time to rest
You’ve probably heard this from your doctor way too many times, but it’s a cliche that has the ability to change your life. On your self-care days, you want to catch up on some sleep that you may have passed up during the week.
We tend to think that going to bed every night is enough rest but sometimes we need an extra nap or two to give us the extra boost of energy that we need. When you’re taking these personal days, make time to lie down. Even when your doing other things to take care of your body you’re still moving. Give your arms and legs the rest that they deserve.
If you’re not good at falling asleep on command then spend some time watching a movie or maybe reading a few articles on Medium. Whenever I can't sleep on my rest days I will lay down in my bed and throw on some music.
It’s important to feel like you're not forcing yourself to do any of these things. You want to be as relaxed as possible. The moment you start thinking too much about doing something right, it's the same moment where you will start to become stressed.
How often do you rest your mind?
We tend to rest our bodies more than our minds. Our brains are always working and trying to figure out ways that we can survive. Give your brain rest by going to sleep and turning off that thinking plug.
Find some way to rest your body, there are many techniques and ideas that you can find on the internet for ways to rest your body. If you still have trouble sleeping then do something that makes you tired like reading a book or listening to soft music.
There is no exact recipe or guidelines that you can follow to have a perfect self-care day. It mostly comes from experience and learning about what you like and don't like to do. Hopefully, these easy things to remember will help you to get started on the right track. I’ll leave you with a quote from Christopher Germer that says
“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”