How to Rediscover Your Confidence in 3 Simple Ways

Build your confidence up from scratch by using these techniques

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Nowadays, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, you will not be successful. At least this is what many people believe, but is it really true? To a certain extent, it is and we often feel at our best when we have high levels of confidence.

In all honesty, we tend to face some times of ultimate despair. It’s almost impossible to be considered confident 24/7. There will be more than a handful of times where we feel like we’re just not good enough at something. This leads us into thinking that we’re not good enough for ourselves or for other people.

It only gets worse from there, things like depression and anxiety start to come into play. Is there a way that we can prevent these feelings of uncertainty? Sometimes they will come when we least expect them to but there are things that we can do to get over these dark emotions.

It takes time to really understand how these things can help us but we have to be patient enough to give them a try. At this point what else do you have to lose?

Another product of not feeling confident in ourselves is that we feel like people don’t notice us. We can’t be the hero in important situations because we lack the courage to do so. Who would ask somebody like this to help them out when they’re feeling down. We start to become invisible, our confidence is not where it needs to be in order to be noticed. We start to feel sorry for ourselves and more understanding of why people don’t want to be around us.

You don’t want to be constantly scared of trying new things, let’s look at a few ways that can help you to get your confidence back on track.

Reflect on Your Accomplishments

What have you accomplished in your life? No matter if those accomplishments are big or small, they still had an impact on your life that made you the person you are today.

Take a look back on your childhood, how many things were you good at? I like to think about my first time playing sports for my city. I was a very small kid but I did my best in every season which gave me a sense of pride.

Find something similar in your childhood that gave you a feeling of gratification. Try to find something that made you stand out from all the other kids, use the same feelings that you had in those moments, and apply them to your life right now.

Something else that you can think about is people who you have helped in the past. Whether it was at work or somebody in your neighborhood. If you were able to help somebody out in your past life then you can definitely do it again. This will help your confidence grow when you’re around other people.

Knowing that you have something valuable to give when you’re around different people will eliminate the feeling of nervousness that you might have experienced before.

Think about where you are today. Being brave in certain situations from your past led you into the position that you’re in today. You’re still alive and you're able to recall what being confident feels like. Do all that you can to get that feeling back, even if it takes for you to reflect back on your past accomplishments when you were younger.

Listen to Motivating Music

This is a great time to look up some of your favorite songs at the moment and really take in the lyrics. Artists know what they are doing when they are writing songs like these. They understand that sometimes people need a push in life. This is something that is important to understand when having low confidence.

Some of your favorite musicians have had a time where they felt like they ran out of confidence as well. Look where they are at now, they too probably listened to some motivating music when they were feeling like you. Hearing encouraging words in the form of music is like somebody being there with you to let you know that you’ll bounce back from bad situations.

When feeling low on confidence, you might feel a little lonely as well. Using music as an escape is a great way to not feel so alone. If these musicians are so confident then why can't you bee too? Music does a great job of putting you in a mood to do more with your life. Everyone feels down in the dumps sometimes, this is not to say that you won't ever recover.

The radio is filled with uplifting songs, which goes to show that these songs aren’t too hard to find. You can even go on Youtube and look up songs about positivity and you will be presented with a variety of playlists to choose from. Let the music trigger something in you to help your confidence.

After listening to many songs that have to do with becoming a better version of yourself, certain lyrics will start to stick out to you and will become attached to your memory. These lyrics are good to have in the back of your head for times where you feel super timid.

Do Something That You Enjoy Doing

We don’t usually make time for doing things that we truly enjoy. We only take part in these things in spurts. Figure out what you like doing and wouldn’t mind doing every day.

What’s significant about doing something that you love to do is that you’re able to express yourself. We don't get to express ourselves too often when we’re around other people. Taking time do things like this on our own or with a group of close friends can boost your confidence to a whole new level.

When we’re constantly doing things that we don’t genuinely enjoy, we wait for the opportunity to come for when we can actually enjoy life. We wait for the time in our lives for when we can be fully confident. Unfortunately, no matter how long we wait for that confidence it will not come to us until we go after it.

One step you can take daily is finding the time to do something that you have fun with. For me, this is writing, not every day is easy for me to write, but I do it daily to remind myself that I am lucky to have it for when I do it enjoy it. When your confidence is low, you can rely on things like writing or even certain skills that you are good at to give you more confidence.

Doing activities that you enjoy when you are by yourself makes no room for external judgment. Judgment is what causes us to lose confidence in the first place, we don’t like to feel judged because we want people to accept us for who we are. This is why it’s ok from time to time to do things alone and enjoy your alone time. Your confidence will be back to where it once was after doing something like this.

We all have times where we feel that our confidence is not at its full potential. This is normal, but we have to make sure that we don’t let this feeling of hopelessness last forever. I’ll leave you with a quote from Jason Day that says

“When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, it’s game over for everyone else.”

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”

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