How to Start Saying “No” to The People You Care About

A simple word that can change your life for the better

Brandon Bell
6 min readOct 10, 2020


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How many times a day do you say “no?”

The world is filled with “yes” people, including myself. Who knew that such a simple word can have so much impact on the way you live your life?

When you say “yes” too many times to people, they will start to take advantage of you. They may see you as a nice, kind person but they start to rely on you for their own personal needs, which kind of sucks. It’s nice to know that somebody can go to you for help but how is that person supposed to learn how to things on their own?

The opportunity to say “no” presents itself when somebody asks you a simple question like “can you take me somewhere now?” Sometimes they’ll try to not come off as too needy by saying “please” and “if you don’t mind.” At that moment you have a choice, but for some reason as much you don't want to give them a ride you still say yes.


You don’t want to let this person down and also at times, that person has been there for you so you don’t think it wouldn't be fair if you were to tell them no.

What’s the worse that can happen if you tell your best friend “no” once in a while?

Do you think that they’ll stop being your friend forever?

If you think this could potentially happen with you and one of your friends then you may need to take a look at who you’re friends really are.

How many times do you get told “no” a day? It may not be too many because you’re not the type of person to ask for a lot, but it does happen every now and then.

You may be upset at the moment but as your life goes on you forget about it within days. If you’re having trouble saying “no” then take a look at these few ways you can get started.

Start giving yourself more respect

Being able to tell people “no” starts with yourself.

Do you have trouble telling yourself “no” at times?

If so, then this may be something that’s holding you back from being honest with people.



Brandon Bell

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”