Is “Fake It Till You Make It” a Scam?

How much acting does success require?

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“Fake it till you make it” is a term that is used to describe the concept of faking a specific attitude or lifestyle that you desire until you’re able to actually obtain it. This has and hasn’t worked for many people but the saying has now become a cliche that almost every American knows by heart.

Is it a cliche that we should trust though? Despite its suspicious title, it seems to have a lot of meaning behind it, it almost sounds too good to be true. Can you remember the last or the first time you heard this cliche?

It was probably in a movie or in a show you may have watched when you were younger. Even motivational speakers that you can relate to more now that you’re older tend to say this cliche a lot. There has to be some truth behind this saying if so many people are referencing it and recommending it to others.

You may have taken this cliche more seriously when you were younger, maybe there was a special character from a movie you liked and you wanted to be just like them. So, what did you do in order to feel like you were that character?

You acted as much as you can like that character by repeating lines they said in movies or different actions they do as well. I remember watching Lion King for the first time when I was younger and I wanted to be Simba so bad.

Being the five-year-old kid that I was, I would walk on my hands like a lion and I would roar like a lion when I got mad. All in all, even though I was faking to be a lion for that short period of time in my life, I never actually became one.

This concept of “faking it until you make it” should be used in a more well-respected sense other than trying to become a lion, it should be used when trying to change your attitude towards life or going into a specific career.

If you act like you’re a positive person for a certain amount of time you will eventually become a positive person because you’re constantly practicing a role of being positive. It will start to steep into your natural habits as well and you will be a new person.

It’s Okay to Be Fake?

Being a fake person is never okay and the more fake you are the fewer people trust you. Let’s look back on a time in your life where you wanted to be one of the cool kids, you would hang around them and do bad things that they would do just to feel accepted within the group.

Well, what about the friends you had before making yourself into the “cool” group. These original friends will start to call you fake and they will realize that you’re not acting like yourself.

There’s still a way to enter into a group like this by being yourself, it may be harder but it is the more natural way. Now, when it comes to being fake so that you can make it, you want to treat this practice as something that is short-term.

If you want to be the “cool” kid in class then you have to change some of your ways. But, let's say you really desire to be cool, you would start acting like you’re cool no matter what your current status was.

This would involve you changing your walk talk and look. Eventually, as time goes on, you’ll become cool because your mind has got used to the habit of you being cool, along with your actions.

This doesn't mean that we have to act fake towards other people, you can still be on your own “fake it till you make it” journey while still being the same you towards others.

Being fake has its limits and it shouldn't be done in regards to making someone feel bad or to act like they're invisible. Your mindset will be to change as the cliche sticks into your brain, it may be a long wait but it will come to enough practice.

This cliche is also a form of manifesting, you have a vision in mind of where you would like to be in life and you ask for it. This causes you to envision it more for yourself and feel like you’re actually living that experience as well.

What If You Never Get What You Want?

The risk that you’re taking on when “faking it till you make it” is that the practice might not work. That’s right, even if you try to do it for a long period it has the possibility of not working. This is shocking right? A cliche that has been around for years is now in jeopardy.

You need to keep trying this exercise so that you can see what does and doesn't work for you. It’s not easy to make up this mindset, it comes with repetition. Usually, some of the best outcomes of your life have come from risk.

This includes learning how to swim, learning how to ride your bike, and changing a tire on your car. You have to put consistency into this because without consistency you won’t be able to see the results you would like to see.

So what if you don’t get what you want? Are you going to keep the same mindset? You need to start getting used to risk and consistency because these are two major factors for success.

Usually, the people who have a high return from the stock market usually have dealt with some sort of risk in their portfolio. Yes, there will be times where you may regret a risk you’ve taken upon but it’s a learning lesson either way.

Consistency, if you want a hack to see just a little growth in anything then you need to be consistent. When you’re consistent you’re taken more seriously and you get the respect you deserve.

Leave the pain for someone who isn’t getting what they want. If you fake it just enough then you will be on a fast track path to success. Don’t forget to use the cliche as a mantra whenever you’re feeling stuck or unmotivated.

Being Lowkey About It

This whole “fake it till you make it” thing can only work if you believe in it and if you try it for yourself. Even if you have your doubts about it, you need to give those a try because it has the potential to change your perspective towards life.

Having your perspective change is not only good for you but for others around you too. If this ends up working for you, imagine how many other people it will work for as well.

You can let your friends know about the technique and you can guide them through it. You can’t be opposed to all cliches you’ve heard in your life because deep down inside you know that some of them are true. They may sound like they’re too good to be true but if you really committed to at least one of them then you know that it could help you grow.

You don’t want to have any regret about not trying this technique. The saying was made for a reason and that reason is so that it can be used! I’ll leave you with a quote from Paulo Coelho that says

“You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent.”

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”

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