Meditation, meditation, meditation. It’s become a household name for the year 2020. Everyone has had so much downtime during the pandemic and at times we don’t know what to do.
Eventually, everyone adapts and finds new ways to find fulfillment in their life. Whether this is taking on a home project or even starting a new side hustle.
One practice that more people have been trying is meditation. Even people who’ve been meditating for their whole life have found new ways to meditate and even have a different perspective on it. For beginners, it hasn’t gotten any easier, if anything you may feel even more uncomfortable doing it than before the self-quarantine you’ve put yourself on.
There are many places to begin, there’s different guided meditation videos that you can find on YouTube, there are several apps to choose from and there are even books to learn from as well.
One thing that you should keep in mind whether you’re just starting out or if you consider yourself to be a veteran when it comes to meditating is there is no right way of doing it. All you need to know is how to do nothing. Sounds simple but can be way harder to do when actually meditating.
Even though you sometimes sit around and do nothing but stare at your phone for 30 minutes, it’s completely different from meditating for 30 minutes. When you’re on your phone, you’re not really in control of your thoughts, whatever pops us on your feed brings a new thought into your head that allows you to escape reality for a bit.
It seems like the human race can’t survive without a quick dopamine boost every five minutes.
When you’re meditating and are focusing on absolutely nothing, you have the opportunity to become one with your thoughts. There are many different forms of meditation for you to try but one that will never fail you is the art of doing nothing.
Learning Not to Try
You may have been taught to focus on your breathing or the sensations of your body touching the floor when meditating. Leave those two on the side for the moment and just focus on nothing.
Allow your mind to wander, let it to do what it wants. In order to become “good” at this, you're going to have to become comfortable with letting go. Don’t set any goals for your session, think about whatever you want to think about.
When you don’t force anything to happen, everything comes to you naturally. When focusing on breathing, you may get concerned that you’re not breathing correctly. This is a lot of stress that you shouldn’t be dealing with when it comes to meditation. Every breath that you take from that moment makes you feel tense. You’re being too hard on yourself, breathing is something you don’t have to try to do, as a human it comes naturally.
Now, what about when you focus on your body? I’m a victim of taking myself too seriously when it comes to doing a body scan. A body scan is when you do a self-assessment of how your body feels, in some areas, you may feel tight and in others, you may feel weak, either way, you’re bound to feel something.
This a great technique to use when meditating but again you’re trying too hard, the more you think about your body the more you try to straighten your back or move your hands into a more comfortable position. You end up losing focus and the worry starts to come through again, stop trying to put your body in certain positions, and just be still.
You will find your body become more still when you don’t try to move any of your body parts. Let this be a learning process, we’re so used to trying and taking our lives way too seriously that sometimes it can be hard not to.
Confronting Your Inner Problems
There’s a lot of scary thoughts that run through your head daily and you’re not alone. It can be easy to put these anxious thoughts in the back of our heads when they become present to us but eventually, you’re going to have to face them. Why not face them in your calmest state, in meditation?
When meditating, you should let your thoughts come to you, not push them away. You’re doing yourself injustice when doing this because you’re storing all of those thoughts in the back of your brain which will in time pile up into one terrifying thought that may be too much for you to handle in the future.
Confront your inner problems the moment they come to you when meditating. Many times you may not even know why these thoughts you’re having are so scary, when meditating, you’re able to break down these battles into smaller questions to ask yourself.
About two days ago, I left my usual mediation routine of focusing on my breath to adopt this new form of meditation. I realized that I was feeling overwhelmed with the amount of schoolwork I’ve been receiving. Once I realized that I then asked myself “why?” This led me into figuring out that I wasn’t spending my time during the day efficiently when it came to schoolwork.
When meditating and doing nothing, you will uncover a lot of answers to your problems. Learn to accept your anxiety for what it is and take it head-on when meditating, you’ll thank yourself later.
It’s Ok to Have a Loud Mind
I consider myself to be a very quiet person, whether I’m by myself or surrounded by close ones, but I do consider myself to have a very loud mind.
There are many individuals who have the ability to say what’s on their mind at any given moment, which is a great skill to have to an extent.
For the ones who are quieter about what they say or do, you may find yourself going a little crazy while meditating. Your thoughts are racing, instead of constantly listening to other people you are now able to listen to yourself.
When meditating while doing nothing, your thoughts are loud and more clear to you. It’s good to do meditation in this fashion so that you can see how you feel about certain things that are going on in your life. Listening to yourself is a special skill to have.
Thinking about thoughts one by one for a span of ten minutes can have a great impact on your mental health. When your thoughts come to you with good news or even bad news, you can choose how to respond at that moment.
While meditating, you don’t even have to respond, you can just observe those thoughts. These ideas that are popping up in your head show you what’s wrong and why. If you’ve never had time to think then meditation is the way to go.
Using the simplest form of meditation which is sitting down, closing your eyes, and being still for a period of time, will help you to rediscover yourself. If you don’t have time to focus on what’s bothering you through the day, take some time at night to just think.
Be the person who is calm and present when around your friends and family. This can be done by taking a few minutes of your day to do nothing but sit down and close your eyes. I’ll leave you with a quote from Charlotte Eriksson that says
“Sometimes you need to sit lonely on the floor in a quiet room in order to hear your own voice and not let it drown in the noise of others.”