The world will not work in your favor if you’re constantly having a closed mind. The number of ideas that are being generated in today’s day and age is infinite. People are discovering new ways of thinking and different ways of how things work.
On your self-improvement journey, you can’t only rely on your thoughts to take over any obstacle that comes your way. Your thoughts have to be influenced by others and made into your own sense. Even certain mantras that we say to ourselves come from other people who are successful and from older literature.
Only certain ideas stick to your brain after a long period of time. Working on yourself should be for the greater good, what’s the point in improving if you can’t help improve the world. In order to gain knowledge and wisdom, you have to put your ego aside and learn from others and take in different perspectives. It’s not an easy thing to do because we have different principles instilled in us that don’t want to go away.
When we see something that tries to alter that principle we ultimately become defensive and we tell the other person that they’re wrong. It’s not that they’re wrong, it’s just that they have a different perspective of the situation which is fine.
You don't know everything about everybody and if you think you do then you would be very surprised. Just because you think the principles that you learned are right doesn’t mean that they are. You can only grow so much when you’re alone. Yes, there are things that do require you to be alone but ultimately it’s not best to have this mindset.
People are here to help you, and even if they want something in return, let that be a lesson for you.
Your Friends Will Prove You Wrong
Isn’t it obvious, your friends know things that you don’t? It’s not something to be ashamed about but something to be thankful for. Have your friends keep you in check, always.
When you’re working on yourself, it’s common to start getting obsessed with yourself. This isn’t healthy at all, you need to remember that having different perspectives in your life from people that you know and care about will help to keep those relationships.
When doing self-improvement you will lose people that you thought you needed in your life and you will gain new ones as well. This isn’t all about self-improvement but it’s a natural part of life as well. Even though you feel like you read a good amount of self-improvement books daily and you do intensive amounts of research, doesn't mean what you’re doing is correct.
The people who are close to you may not be putting in the same amount of work that you are but they still have lives to live and they still have experiences that you haven't had yet.
At the end of the day, they have their opinion and you have yours. This shouldn’t stop you guys from being friends, if anything it should only make your relationship stronger.
Introduce your friends to self-improvement and allow them to take their own journey. They will be able to relate to you more and provide you with a different perspective as well.
Remember, there’s always more than one right answer. You don’t have to be right all of the time, being wrong will show you that your journey to self-improvement isn’t over and that you have a long way to go.
Listen to People Who Are Older and Younger Than you
Older people have had many different mentalities during their time here on earth. They can provide you with a lot of tips and tricks when it comes to life and they’re not afraid to talk about it.
When talking to people of our age, we may be able to relate to them more but we don’t really get the answers that we’re looking for because both of you are trying to figure it out.
So, when talking to somebody older, remember that they have information that you may not understand at all at the moment but will realize soon. Their answers come from experience, they too have struggled when in the position you’re in now but over time they learned how to deal with it and if they have any regrets about it then they know that you wouldn’t want the same.
People who are older are comfortable with the truth, the truth sometimes hurts to either hear or say but it’s the answer that everyone needs in their life. Without truth, there is no room for growth, and without growth, you will start to lose the sense of passion that you once had for life.
Now, when it comes to people who are younger than you, it’s beneficial to listen to them too. Even if they bring up something that they want to do in the future, it should motivate you to get back onto what you're passionate about.
At work, I was introduced to a coworker who is four years younger than I am, he told me that he wants to be an actor. As much as I wanted to tell him that he should have a backup plan, I tried my best not to. The energy that was coming from him was the same energy I had when I told myself that I wanted to play professional basketball. Don’t shut down the dreams of people who are younger than you, instead, let them remind you of the optimism you once had and support them.
Don’t Lose Focus, But Be Open to New Ideas
If things are working for you when it comes to self-improvement, then don’t stop doing them. Do what works for you but it’s important to not be close-minded, be open to new ideas because they can have a huge impact on your life.
You never know if it will be something that you hear or read but you will come across something that will open your eyes to becoming a better person. If somebody recommends you a book that you don’t find interesting, at least read a few pages of it out of the respect for the other person and because you never know what few words will change your life.
Other ideas can help you in a sense because there will multiple times in your life where you may be feeling stuck or burned out, listening to people’s unpopular opinions can help you to get back on track. If someone had the courage to mention an unpopular opinion to you or the world then there has to be something true about it or something that can help you to keep pushing forward.
Whenever I feel like I’m running out of ideas for writing, I think of Kanye West, a man who does not limit himself only to music but to fashion and education.
Use other people’s advice as an extra boost in life, learn from people that you know who have improved themselves or even people you don’t know. Read more books and watch more interviews to see how people who have become successful did what they do now.
Learn from others, put your pride aside, you are no less of a person for getting advice from people other than yourself. Use these different perspectives to help create your own path to self-improvement. I’ll leave you with a quote from Albert Einstein that says
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”