The Secrets About Loneliness That No One Tells You About

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Why We Are Lonely

If you’re a human on this earth, then you have experienced loneliness at least sometime in your life. Loneliness usually occurs when either boredom strikes, your friends are to busy to hang out with you, or even when your just tired and don’t feel like stepping out. This feeling can arise for a variety of reasons and situations. Sometimes these moments can be out of your control and can leave you down in the dumps. Being alone can cause you to reevaluate your life and question yourself more times than not. It’s something that can’t always be avoided and seems to come at a time when we’re at our worse. If loneliness is something that you fear, then take a step back and look at the situation you are in. Is it just a phase that we go through? Or is it a time to put yourself together and think about what your life is and if you really should be enjoying the time that you have to yourself.

It’s Not So Bad After All

Instead of loneliness being this depressing feeling, look at it from the outside and try to see how bad it really is. Although in the spur of the moment it may feel hard to do, take baby steps in doing something that you either like to do or need to do, whether that’s writing down what your thankful for or getting some sleep. Your human, you get tired, lonely, and even scared sometimes, take time to appreciate those emotions and what they mean to you. “Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.”

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More Time to Be A Better You

Now is the opportunity to stop procrastinating and to stop talking about how you never have time to work on your skills. Time of isolation can be some of the only true time you have to work on yourself. Have an open mind and try taking on a new skill; keeping yourself busy can help you a lot when feeling down and alone. If you’re someone that doesn’t like being bored try writing, reading, or even working on your personal health. One method that I do whenever I’m in these difficult situations is I try to think of things that I’ve always wanted to do, next I’ll act upon them and start doing my research on how to become good at it. This for most of the time should keep your mind preoccupied and cause your stress level to decrease. Instead of being alone, bored, and lazy, you are being productive and fighting that hard-lonesome sensation.

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It Won’t Last Forever

Although in the moment it may feel like its lasting forever it will eventually end. There isn’t a set time or date, but this sad emotion will eventually pass. Appreciate the times you have to yourself and although you may want someone to hangout with right now, you may not feel that way in the future. Make a choice in your mind and put it into action. Are you going to be lonely and not do anything with your life or are you going to take this time and be productive? A good friend of mine was telling me that being alone can be a time of looking at your life and getting a fresh start of any goals or plans you must do to improve yourself. Don’t let these times lead you into depression and heartache, as a human your strong and you have control over your emotions, don’t let abandonment stop you from enjoying life and living it. “When your forced to stand alone, you realize what you have in you.”

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A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”

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