This is Why You Should Stick to the People You Get Along With

We complicate our lives by interacting with the wrong people

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As you may know from different experiences, not everyone is going to like you. The more you try to get everyone to like you, the deeper the hole you’re putting yourself into. Look at the people you get along with, you never really question why you get along with them, everything is natural.

But then there are people who you don’t get along with. That person who you’ve tried to get along with in the past but it just didn’t work out. This is something you probably think about every now and then but you definitely think about that relationship more than you do with the person you get along with.

You need to start thinking about the people with who you get along with more because believe it or not, they’re actually an important piece in your life. Unlike the people who you don’t get along with where they take up most of your curiosity, that can be used for many other things.

As humans, it’s natural for us to think deeply about why someone doesn't like us but our ultimate goal is to be accepted. Despite our dreams about reaching a certain financial point in our lives, we would love to be accepted by most people.

This all depends on who you’re interacting with. If you're constantly trying to interact with people who are mean and disrespectful to you then how do you expect to meet people who will be nice to you.

When you’re interacting with people who have respect for you and that you get along with, you’ll have a higher chance of meeting more people like that through that person.

Who you know is important, building your network is important too. Not only for whatever business you’re trying to sell but also for your overall health. The people who you surround yourself with are just as important as the amount of exercise you’re getting each week and how good your diet is as well.

The people who you get along with shouldn't get overlooked by the people you don't get along with. Start paying more attention to the people you enjoy being around the most. Observe what makes you so happy and what you can learn from them in your constant interactions.

At the end of the day, even though you would like to get along with everyone, you’re not supposed to. Everyone is different and certain people are meant for each other.

Conversations Flow Better

When you’re with someone who you get along with, you’re never afraid to talk to them. You can call up someone who you consider to be your friend right now without feeling guilty because you know get along with them. Things take time and relationships are one of those things.

There are also rare occasions where you may get along with someone who you didn't like at first. This happens to people all of the time but it’s not something that you should be trying to do with everyone.

You need to be able to have conversations that flow or else you won’t be able to express how you truly feel to someone. Speaking to someone who you know and admire is always the right thing to do because not only are you getting along with that person but you’re able to get value out of what that person is saying because you respect what they have to say.

It’s not always the easiest to meet people who you have an instant connection with, you have to get to know them and over time you will see why it was all worth it.

The most annoying conversations are the ones where someone keeps cutting you off or where you tend to disagree with everything that person has to say. The conversations usually derive from people who you don't get along with.

These conversations need to happen at some point in your life so you know who you should be having a conversation with. You would get sick of debating and arguing over a certain period of time. Eventually, you’re going to want someone who is willing to hear you out and give you advice about what you should do next in life.

Your opinions are similar to people you get along with, which makes that conversation easy to flow and easy to understand. Both of you will know when to stop talking and you will know when to let the other finish instead of cutting them off.

They Help You Stay Positive

How many people do you know in your life that make you positive whenever you see them. When I'm at work exhausted and upset with some of my coworkers I look to one of my coworkers who I get along with for positivity.

She helps me to look through life from a different perspective and gives me hope that the day will get better. She’s someone who I get along with and just like that, I’m able to recalibrate my mind into a more positive mindset.

You should be looking for people in your life who can do that for you and make sure you show appreciation towards them whenever you can. You have limited arguments with the people you get along with.

You may have a disagreement sometimes but those disagreements never turn into anything hostile. You learn from each other and you see what that person doesn't like. From there you live on and you restate any opposing thoughts you may have had in the past.

You can stick to your opinions about the world and about people all you want but there’s always going to be someone who disagrees with you whether they’re your friend or not.

Friends argue from time to time and it’s normal but they’re never the same as the arguments you have with people you don't get along with. The arguments that you get into with someone who you don’t like can either last for a very long time or a very short time depending on the person.

It’s arguments like this that let the other person know that they don't get along with them. When first meeting someone who you don't like, it can be frustrating to get your point across because they don’t want to hear it.

They rather disagree with you on that day and never see you as someone with who they can get along with for weeks, months, and even years on certain occasions. Watch what people you’re bringing into your circle and see if they’re someone with who you get along.

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Talking to People You Don’t Get Along With

You end up learning a lot from the people you don’t along with, they show you what life is really like and they’re someone who doesn't necessarily like you. It may hurt a little at first but you start to get used to it and you have respect for the interaction that occurred between both of you.

It can be very frustrating at times to work with someone who you don't get along with but again it just goes to show how crazy life can be. You end up at a place where you meet this person and before you know it you guys have different opinions and it doesn’t work out.

You may ask “why” but the truth is that you’ll never really know. That person is different from you and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Start appreciating the people you get along with more because they chose to be nice to you. They didn’t have to get along with you if really didn’t want to but they did so be thankful. I’ll leave you with a quote from Anais Nin that says

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”

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