Why Is It So Hard to Ask For Help?

Your ego doesn't want to hear it…

Brandon Bell
6 min readSep 11, 2021


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What kind of student are you or were you when in school? Are you someone who usually asks a lot of questions or were you someone who never raised their hand and still found a way to pass?

Asking questions has become a foreign concept in the modern world, for some reason we believe that we’re supposed to figure out everything ourselves or know it already for whatever reason.

You don’t have to be afraid to ask questions, people love helping other people or they at least like to look smart in from of others. Asking for help is only hard if you make it to be, all you’re really doing is saying a few words and hoping for the best.

There’s nothing truly bad that will happen, maybe some awkward stares and responses from time to time but that’s it. Look, you don't know everything and you’re not supposed to, the best way to truly learn about anything isn't from a textbook, it’s hearing it from a voice of an actual human being.

Building up the courage to do so is tough as well, but just think about how successful you want to become. Why do we ask questions in the first place? We do it to gain more knowledge and to get something we want.

Students in class (like me) really want to get the best possible grade they can get, so they ask all of the questions that come to mind when not understanding something.

I don't know about you but I dislike being the only person in class who doesn't understand a topic. It makes me feel like I’m behind or that I’m not putting enough effort into my learning. Asking questions is valuable and it’s a tool that you can use no matter where you are.

Will you always get the answer you want? No, but you’ll get more comfortable learning how to phrase questions and getting people to tell you what you really want to know. Ask questions every day, be a student of life and not just someone who observes from the sideline.

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What harm does it do you to ask someone a simple question? Look at how many questions I’m asking you in this article so far, be curious, and be as genuine as possible with your curiosity.



Brandon Bell

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”