There are only a select amount of people in the world who are genuinely positive people. They all have different stories but their people skills are amazing. They’re able to make people smile and gravitate more people towards them without even trying.
You probably know of someone who has this ability and you may find that person very enjoyable to be around. They’re such good company that they’ve motivated you to become similar.
We’re all different and we all have our own special skills that make us stand out but we can still relate to others. This is a key concept when it comes to being a positive person.
Your ability to relate to others and know how others feel is a skill set that should be used to your advantage. If you’re not happy with the conversations you’re having and you seem to be getting negative energy from other people then you need to take into consideration two things.
One, what energy are you putting out in the world? The energy you put out is the energy you attract. Two, are you taking notes from other people who you consider to be positive.
This second thought is going to be the main focus of this article and is a technique you can start to use in your life today. There are several ways to take notes but these are ways that I’ve found useful to becoming a more positive person.
There will be obstacles in the future where it may be really hard for you to be positive but you can look back at a time like this and see how you were able to persevere.
If you want to become a positive person within the next year just know that you can’t do it alone. It’s not impossible but you're making the process a lot harder than it needs to be. Take notes from people who you see daily and learn what works for them and see how it can work for you as well.
Mental Notes & Asking Questions
You always want to be an observer first when learning about something new. Think back to when you were a child and you played video games and board games. You first had to see others play fin order or you to understand how the game works or how to even know where to start.
You may have been able to teach yourself many skills but there’s nothing better than going back to the basics. Do you remember the first you saw someone pour juice into a cup?
Probably not, but that was the first time where you were able to observe and use that skill later on as you got older. So, when it comes to being a positive person you may see that other people find it easier to do it because they’ve had some type of role model or someone they knew that was constantly being positive.
Or, there may have been a situation where something went wrong in someone’s life and they decided to be positive from that point on. Now, observing can be done in many wanys but the whole point is to just watch.
When you’re looking at positive people do what they do, you should be looking at their actions. What is their posture like? What kind of hand movements do they use?
These are things you can start to copy into your life and you will start to see instant results. If you don’t see results right away then you just have to keep practicing and over time it will become natural and the results will feel natural as well.
When you start to grow, the whole world around you starts to grow as well. Something that I’ve noticed recently when observing some of the most positive people at my job is the ability of them to entertain themselves.
Even if they have no one to talk to for a few moments they will start a small conversation with themselves, that doesn't come off as weird but you can see them naturally having a good time with their own thoughts which is something that everyone should learn to do.
When you truly love yourself, it becomes a lot easier to love others and have others experience your positivity with every interaction.
People Responding to Them
How are people responding to these positive people? Are they responding back with positivity or negativity? Most of the time, you’ll see people respond to these positive people with positivity back, this is where you can see the law of attraction happening in real-time.
Every now and then you will see no response from people or you will see people respond in a negative way to these positive people. You'll soon come to realize that these positive people won’t give that interaction any attention or they will laugh about the situation.
This makes these positive people look crazy but it definitely makes the situation better than when it first started. Positivity always wins that battle against negativity, nobody looks at someone who is spreading negative energy out into the world as someone they want to be like.
As a matter of fact, people don’t like to be around this type of energy unless they were born into it. Change the narrative of the world and about the person you want to become, be more positive by simply taking notes and observing.
Positive people tend to get treated a lot better than people who are negative. When you’re perceived as someone who is always positive, you will get greeted with positivity from others and people will treat you with respect and will listen to what you have to say.
Here’s the thing, you don’t run into a lot of people like this daily, every now and then you will, you probably have or have had a friend like this in your life. It’s probably why you were friends with them, they were able to help you look at life through a more positive light.
Don’t you want to be treated with kindness and generosity everywhere you go? Start looking at the people who do get treated like this and see how positive of a person they are.
You can have all the power in the world, but if you don’t have the ability to be positive in any given situation then people will not give you the respect you truly deserve.
Stop Taking Notes & Start Taking Action
Now that you have all of the mental notes completed and you’ve asked all of the questions that you needed to it’s time to take action. Start going wherever you need to go with a positive attitude and use these positive skills you’ve learned from others and try them out for yourself.
It will be uncomfortable at first but you will get the hang of it, especially when you’re putting good intentions behind those practices. Use what you learned when speaking with other people, this also includes speaking to people you’ve never met before.
That’s right, part of being a positive person is to spread positivity wherever you go, even if you don’t know anyone that’s around you. Set goals for how positive you want to be. These don’t have to be big goals but they should be attainable when you’re taking action and doing the work.
There’s no secret to being positive, learn from others, and take notes. When you have all the information that you need, start taking action. I’ll leave you with a quote from Joyce Brothers that says
“A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.”