You’re not the only one who doesn’t know their purpose. You have a life just like everyone else. Although it may feel like your friends know what they’re doing, the truth is that they don’t and almost no one does.
In order to find some type of purpose in your life, you’re going to have to try different things. The process can get tiring but it’s worth it in the end. This problem of not having a purpose is most evident towards millennials and the members of gen z.
Is it that we are too young to know our purpose?
Or is it that everyone has a different time in their life where they find out?
No matter what the answer is, it’s important that these two groups of individuals continue to set goals in place for their future and for the future of the world.
It’s easy to forget about purpose, many people work a regular job and wait until the end of their day to find some type of enjoyment out of life. This has been programmed into almost everyone in the U.S., we see other people becoming successful at a young age but we don’t know their life story. It just happens to be their time in life to make the money that they’re making or receive the status that they have.
Plus, social media does a good job of making this lifestyle seem easy to obtain when in reality it takes a lot of time and hard work. Of course, there’s a little bit of luck involved but that doesn’t mean somebody doesn't deserve to be in the position that they’re in.
Even if you can’t figure out what your purpose is at the moment, continue to work hard in anything that you do and try as many things as possible. You never know which one of those random hobbies can benefit you in the future.
The Grind Will Give You Joy
Look at the times we’re in now with this pandemic, even though the world is suffering as a whole, this is a great time for you to start a side hustle that you’ve always found interest in. You may be more motivated than ever to start one because the world seems to be coming to an end day by day and before you know it, you might not get the opportunity to actually put in work toward your dreams and aspirations.
This is why your grind will give you joy, even if you’re not working at your dream job now, use the job you have now to make a path to that dream job.
Become comfortable with the idea of delayed gratification. This is the opposite of instant gratification where you get a short amount of joy in a relatively small period of time, but the feeling of joy doesn’t last very long causing you to be more depressed than you were before getting that gratification.
Suffer now and your success will be much more worth it when it comes to you five, ten, or even fifteen years from now. In the process of being on your grind, you learn to push yourself. This is another form of delayed gratification because when pushing yourself, it may be very uncomfortable at the moment but when you complete the job you will feel even better afterward because of all the work you put in.
An example of this is a student studying for a final exam three weeks prior to it taking place, although they don’t want to study, they push themselves to do it because they know that it will make the test a less stressful experience in the future.
Also, when you’re on your grind, you learn what your good and not good at. Always improve at what your good at, keep that skill sharp for whenever you need to use it. It’s not a bad idea to work on your weaknesses from time to time either because once you master those weaknesses, you’ll also feel good about yourself in the long run.
Feeling Like Your Life Has Meaning
You should be asking yourself more about what is it that your chasing. This will bring you closer to finding out what your purpose is. Your purpose will never be an exact thing, it will be more of a feeling than anything.
Look at what you’re chasing and see how it can have an impact on the world. Make a list of short term goals and long term ones. Are any of your short-term goals related to your long-term goals? Make an effort to create short-term goals that will help you reach the place you want to be in the future.
You can look at this in an example of starting a business. First, you should work on a plan to get your company up and running, let that be your goal for now. Make a goal for a year later to hit a high number of sales to where your business is established.
Finding meaning in life can be done by having realistic goals and smaller goals to help you accomplish them. You will know that you have meaning in your life when you become self-motivated. There will be no excuses for you to get things done or for the mistakes you make. Everything that you decide to do is on you and you will be ok with that because self-motivation also comes with taking responsibility.
You will have the advantage that not many people have which is keeping it real with yourself. It will hurt at times but you know it’s for the greater good, all of these mistakes that you make will give you the motivation to do better in the future.
Becoming the Person You Want to Be
Self-improvement is more of a mindset than anything, with this tool you can become a better version of yourself within a few years. It’s also important to know that this mindset should be something that you should have for as long as you live.
It keeps your mind busy and distracted from the ongoing problems in your life. It allows you to use stress as something to eliminate from your life and as motivation for new obstacles that come your way. Finding your purpose goes hand in hand with self-improvement, each day you work on a part of your life to improve upon, the closer you will get to finding your purpose.
Many personal trainers found their purpose from self-improvement, they worked on the physical shape every day that they could which lead them to their purpose of helping other people build their physique as well.
Be patient when finding your purpose, it’s not something that will come to you in a day, over time as you learn more about yourself it will become more clear to you what your purpose is. The person who you look at in the mirror is the current you, it’s hard to imagine what you will look like or how you will feel a few years from now. If you constantly work on yourself then you know that you will be happier with yourself tomorrow than today.
Don’t beat yourself up for not having an exact explanation for what your purpose is. If you learn to love the journey that you’re on now then your purpose will make its way into your life at some point. I’ll leave you with a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson that says
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”