Why You Should Make An Effort to Communicate More With Your Friends

Are we really spending enough time with them?

Your friends have been there through thick and thin, even with the pandemic happening last year you’ve still maintained a relationship with them. Sometimes, the level of respect and love that people have for each other is so strong that nothing can break it.

This is why your friends mean so much to you and why they’re still sticking around. You thought that the pandemic would have ruined the friendship you guys had but it only made it stronger. You may not get to see them as much but you’re still able to talk to them over the phone on a consistent basis.

We can’t forget about our friends, they’re there for emotional support and as much as we claim that we don’t need emotional support it’s pretty obvious you do. Your friends are some of the only people that understand you, or at least this is what you would say about them.

The conversations you guys have and the amount of knowledge spread between each other is something that you look forward to only with them. We can’t do this with strangers or our “acquaintances.” Your friends make you feel comfortable no matter where you are.

I remember before the pandemic I was doing photography for a music event where there were people my age and older. As an introvert I was nervous and super uncomfortable, it wasn’t until I called one of my closest friends that I would decide to stay and do my job.

There are not many people in the world like your friends so make an effort to communicate with them, especially when you may feel like things are falling off.

Talking Out Your Problems

You never want to hold your problems in for a long period of time. It can be hard to not do this because you’re scared people may judge you for what your problem is or you may feel like you have no one to talk to. Even though this situation is frustrating, you know that there is at least one person or few people you can talk to.

These are your friends, whether they realize it or not, part of their job as a friend is to listen to your problems and help you navigate through them. The advice that they give may not be what you want to hear but you know deep down inside that it’s something you needed to hear.

Your friends know what’s best for you, they understand how you will respond to certain situations based on what you’ve told them in the past. Although nobody will be able to feel the exact pain you’re feeling when it comes to these problems, your friends are going to have the most empathy for you.

Even when you think you should take a problem to your family, it can be hard to based on the fact that they’ve given you some hurtful advice in the past. When your friend gives you similar advice, it may hurt at first but you’re willing to listen to it more because they’re your friend, they’re the people with who you laugh and joke on a daily basis.

Be thankful that your friends are able to offer you advice, some people are only able to listen to your problems. This can be nice at times but in certain situations, you’re going to need some advice in order to move on at that moment. Your friends give you advice based on their personal experience and based on what they know about you.

They give you an outside perspective of your life without offending you at the same time. They will also keep your problems private, you can trust most of your friends to keep your information confidential and it’s always good to have someone like that, kind of like a licensed therapist.

They Help You With Decisions

Big decisions come up in your life and it’s hard to actually decide what you’re going to do. You may be scared to make a decision, so you need someone to tell you what they would do. Your options are limited here but you have someone who will give you an honest answer and that is your friend.

We tend to overlook friends when it comes to big decisions because we think that all of these decisions are supposed to be hard. Many times, these decisions are not easy to accept but they are easy to make. Your friends are looking at your life from another person's view.

If this isn’t too clear, think about the last time you were in public and your attention was drawn to someone in particular. Do you see how you were looking closely at the person? Your friends have been looking at you through this lens for as long as you’ve known them so trust the decisions that they offer.

The decision may be easy for them to make but you’re the one who has to make the actual decision at the end of the day. Take some of their perspectives from it and mix it in with yours and see the solution you get. This is just natural teamwork and this will help you get a lot farther in your friendship.

When decisions like this are brought up in a conversation with your friends, they automatically feel more respected because you came to them for advice. Out of everyone you could’ve asked, you chose them. That's a good feeling to them that they don’t want to let go so they’re going to give you the best answer that they can.

There are times where we may not understand what our friends are saying and we may not agree to it but it’s just another perspective to add to your decision-making process when struggling.

They Bring You Positivity

We all need some positivity in our lives, an easy way to do this is by communicating more with our friends. Not every conversation is going to be upbeat but there will be times where you guys laugh. Knowing that someone has the same humor as you is an unexplainable feeling that brings you joy and happiness.

You never question how weird the subject may be that you guys are talking about but if it’s funny then it’s funny. With your friends you can explain to them funny situations without really having to explain why you thought the situation was funny, they just get it.

Your friends are able to reflect on memories with you as well. These are memories that no one else will understand but you two, and memories have the ability to bring up certain emotions and put a smile on your face.

Lastly, your friends provide you with encouragement. If your friends believe you in then you will always be more likely to believe in yourself. You don’t have to make too much of an effort when it comes to finding the positivity through your friends because you both have positive ideas to bring to the table.

The next time you’re down and out, don’t feel too worried about having anyone to talk to, look to your friends for encouragement and for motivation. Your friend has seen you get through thick and thin so they will be there to tell you that you can get over another obstacle, no matter what it is.

Show your gratitude for your friends by communicating with them more than usual. You don’t have to get them a gift or anything, just pick up your phone and give them a call. I’ll leave you with a quote from Muhammad Ali that says

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”

A young adult who’s writing is geared towards self-improvement and self care. “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”

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