Even with our prior knowledge from past experiences, we still get down when facing rough days. There’s something different about each of these days in itself but they all seem to bring us the same emotions. These emotions consist of sadness, anger, and anxiety. If it weren’t for some laughable moments throughout our day, it would be hard for us to escape this madness.
During tough times, we are not so much invested in how we are really feeling. Our minds are more focused on external things like work, family, and school. These things are distractions, but can also be identified as anecdotes to keep us away from our true feelings. We rely on these stressful aspects of our lives to keep us distracted from the reality of our mental health. Bad days are inevitable, whether we like it or not there will be some good days and some bad days in our future. What can be changed though, is our perceptions on these days. If we put enough effort into our actions, we can find moments of peace throughout every day of the week.
While this process is easier said than done, it all comes down to one question. What does peace mean to you? For some of us, peace can be identified as consistent happiness or unlimited moments of stillness. Peace can also be physical or internal for many of us as well. Once you figure out what peace means to you, you can take a step in the right direction to figure how you can implement it into your life every day. While I do still struggle with rough patches in my life, I would like to share with you some moments in my day where I find the most peace, these moments can be used for you as well when applying the right amount of effort.
Finding Quiet Time In the Midst of Struggle
Finding the time of quietness can be hard depending on where you live, but if you listen closely throughout your day there are rare moments where silence is present. During these quiet times, it is important that you appreciate them and observe what's going around you. When hearing silence for a certain amount of time you can catch a sense of emptiness inside of your brain. All the noise before had you thinking about past situations and how stressful your day has been so far. Silence allows you to escape for a few moments and learn more about yourself.
When I first learned about moments of quietness throughout the day, I was interested to know how the art of no sound can really impact me. One morning when waking up earlier than usual on my university’s campus I realized that it was completely silent. There were no sounds of my roommates blasting their music, and there was nobody outside cutting the grass in front of my dormitory. It was at that moment where I realized that the world was still asleep, there were no distractions and there was nothing to worry about. I sat in my twin size bed for a few minutes just enjoying the silence and it felt great. Before I knew it I was constantly searching for those moments quietness every day of the week.
When you get the realization of what sensation can occur when feeding into these moments, your mind will start to become more clear and slowed down. You’ll no longer get mad when your neighbors are up all night partying because you know that eventually there will be a moment of silence for you to enjoy.
Be Happy With The People Around You
Dealing with people every day can be difficult at times, it can even be more difficult when it’s the same people throughout the week. These people are considered our friends, family, and co-workers. Many times they can bring a smile to our face and other times it can be the exact opposite.
When having good moments with the people around us, we are typically happy for a few seconds and then we end up getting back into our stressful lives. Having mindfulness throughout these situations can help you to feel this sense of happiness for a longer period of time. Next time you're talking to a family member about your day or even friend, be observant of their facial expressions and how they respond to what you are saying. If they are smiling be empathetic towards them and smile with them. Don’t let them be the only one that's enjoying the moment. Once you take time to process that these emotions don’t come up every day and are not felt every day you will gain more respect for those moments and you will become more present in those situations to the point where you carry that sense of human interaction with you for the rest of the day.
Enjoying their presence and not just their conversation can have a big impact as well. You may not see eye to eye with the person regularly but you are still thankful that they are in your life. At times we put our emotions first before anybody else, simply stop doing this and allow yourself to be open to all experiences that you have with people. This is only one of the many ways to find peace throughout your day.
There are a ton of ways that you can implement self-care into your life, these activities can include journaling, giving yourself a massage, or even doing some breathing exercises before you go to bed. The more you appreciate these gentle acts of kindness to yourself, the more peace that you will find in your life.
During the day we are busy with many things, things that at times seem so unavoidable. We can often feel like we're trapped in these stressful cycles and have no hope for how our life will turn out. We’ve heard the phrase “just take it a day at a time,” this phrase sounds good but what true meaning does it really have? You have no choice but to actually “take it a day at a time,” but is there is actually a little self-help secret identified in this phrase? Each day is full of new opportunities and new beginnings, if we let the stress of our past and our future take the best out of us in the present moment, we can end our actions of feeling sad, anxious, or angry at ourselves.
Having self-care routines to look forward to throughout the day can make you feel like there’s no reason to stress. We all have those little activities that we look forward to at the end of our day, these activities can be healthy or just cause us to actually enjoy the present moment when indulging in the activity itself. Use these activities to your advantage so that you can obtain more peace at the end of the day. One of my personal favorite things that I look forward to at the end of my day is reading. This activity allows me to boost my vocabulary and slow down my mind from all the anxious thoughts that I’ve been dealing with during the day.
Peace can be found anywhere, whether its in people, school, or work. When looking at our routines when involved in these environments, we can map out and look forward to moments of peace throughout our hectic weeks. Figuring out what you identify as peace can also make this process even easier for you in the long run. Express these feelings of peace through your interactions and let other people obtain the peace that you’ve found. I leave my readers with a quote about peace from author Norman Vincent Peale that says
“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.”